We praise the child is appropriate, not just through the indicators and the number determined according to the specific conditions of the children, according to the child's realization and reflect to determine whether to continue to praise or encourage. If the parents developed a plan to complete the blind. Or the recognition of very little recognition. It may result in the following situation.
Scenario 1: Always wait for parents in recognition of mother daughter often praise giving lip service, so the children happy every day like only a small magpie, from time to time, said to his mother: "Mom, I have done this" mother I Military do that, and then look forward to the mother's praise. Analysis: This child has been dependent on recognition of words, the purpose of her work is to the mother to claim credit. If the mother first, as usual, she praised the increase, it will be lost. Tip: Parents should properly suppressed their recognition of the impulse, so praise is more valuable. When the baby first independent walking, the first full back a Tang, really make the whole family happy lot. If only every day to do things, such as urine, called the mother, or a smooth landing from the sofa to the ground, without launching a campaign to compliment or praise. Scenario 2: In the face of the recognition of revealing disappointed sometimes, parents and children can play games, children are generally happy promise. Play the game but the children are good at things. When children play well. At this time parents will praise, "Bad" and the like. Then lost children because of this recognition of showing expression. Analysis: Perhaps it is the mother underestimated the child's abilities, in recognition of and did not allow children to be happy. Children learned early on the beads, the mother also seemed surprised to "praise" him, the children hear not disappointed? Tip: Parents should understand the child's interest and the existing capacity, and the average level of the kids my age, and then a considerable level evaluation of the child. Need to remember is that praise with the child's ability to grow together. Performance: there is pressure to get praise. For example, in their own district, my mother in front of the other mother, in recognition of their children so Nurse that, regardless of whether it is true, the next child will definitely feel pressure, because there are always more than mothers who watched him. Analysis: The recognition of the mother may not only inaccurate, but very exaggerated. This exaggerated praise, is a pressure for children, let him with a heavy heart. Furthermore, my mother in front of the other mother's excessive praise him, He was disgusted, because the child has to listen to the mother, then is not a fact. Tip: specific, appropriate, and the ease of recognition, but will make the child feel sure, and understand that we must strive to. You can also let him know how appropriate restrained and subtle is also a kind of beauty. The child in fact is not yet something to hide his feelings, if we want to know whether it is appropriate recognition of children, we only need to observe the reaction of the children hear praise to know. When children do not feel like he will show his face, the other can not always praise children develop the habit of kids love to take credit. If we get used to praise the child, future children do wrong, we do not have the heart to blame is not.
- Jul 19 Thu 2012 09:46
mother I Military do that, and then look forward to the mother's praise
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